Disagree and you will be remembered. خالفه تذكر

خالفه تذكر

قال المفضل بن سلمة: أول من قال ذلك الحطيئة، وكان ورد الكوفة فلقي رجلاً فقال: دلني على أفتى المصر نائلاً. قال: عليك بعتيبة بن النهاس العجلي. فمضى نحو داره فصادفه فقال: أنت عتيبة. قال: لا. قال: فأنت عتاب. قال: لا. قال: إن اسمك لشبيه بذلك. قال: أنا عتيبة، فمن أنت? قال: أنا جرول. قال: ومن جرول? قال: أبو مليكة. قال الحطيئة: فحدثني عن أشعر الناس من هو? قال: أنت. قال الحطيئة: خالف تذكر، بل اشعر مني الذي يقول:
ومن يجعل المعروف من دون عرضه يفره ومن لا يتق الـشـتـم يشـتـم
ومن يك ذا فضل فيبخل بفـضـلـه على قومه يستغـن عـنـه ويذمـم
قال: صدقت. فما حاجتك? قال: ثيابك هذه، فإنها قد أعجبتني. وكان عليه مطرف خز، وجبة خز، وعمامة خز. فدعا بثياب فلبسها، ودفع ثيابه إليه ثم قال له: ما حاجتك أيضاً? قال: ميرة أهلي من حب وتمر وكسوة. فدعا عوناً له فأمره أن يميرهم وأن يكسو أهله فقال الحطيئة: العود أحمد. ثم خرج من عنده وهو يقول:
سئلت فلم تبخل ولم تعط طائلاً..... فسيان لا ذم عليك ولا حمـد
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Disagree with him and remember.
Al-Mufaddal ibn Salama said: The first to say this was Al-Hutay’a. He had arrived in Kufa and met a man who said, “Show me the most generous young man in the city.” The man said, “Go to Utayba ibn Al-Nahhas Al-Ajli.” So he went to his house and encountered him. He said, “Are you Utayba?” The man said, “No.” He said, “Then are you Attab?” The man said, “No.” He said, “Your name sounds similar.” The man said, “I am Utayba, so who are you?” He said, “I am Jarwal.” He said, “And who is Jarwal?” He said, “Abu Malika.” Al-Hutay’a said, “Tell me, who is the most eloquent of people?” He said, “You are.” Al-Hutay’a said, “Disagree with him and remember. Rather, the most eloquent of people is he who says:
He who makes a favor less valuable than his honor will be despised, and he who does not guard against insult will be insulted.
He who possesses virtue and withholds it from his people will be dispensed with and condemned.”
He said, “You speak the truth. What do you need?” He said, “These clothes of yours, for I have admired them.” He was wearing a silk cloak, a silk robe, and a silk turban. He asked for clothes, put them on, and gave his own clothes to him. Then he asked him, "What else do you need?" He replied, "Provisions for my family, such as grain, dates, and clothing." So he called for an assistant and ordered him to provide them with provisions and clothe his family. Al-Hutay'ah said, "The return is praiseworthy." Then he left, saying: "You were asked, yet you neither withheld nor gave much; it is all the same to you, neither blame nor praise."
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The Arabic expression "خالف تُذكر" means:
Disagree with or oppose the prevailing opinion to attract attention and have your name mentioned.
It is often used pejoratively for someone who deliberately contradicts others, not because they believe they are wrong, but because the contradiction brings fame or makes people notice them.
The closest equivalents in English culture are:
Contrarian for the sake of being contrary.
To be a contrarian.
To deliberately take a contrary position.
To play devil's advocate. (If the contradiction is intended to provoke debate, not to seek fame.)
Negative publicity is better than no publicity.
Negative publicity is better than no publicity.
This is similar to the idea of ​​attracting attention through contradiction, but focuses more on notoriety than opposition.
Any publicity is good publicity.
This is used when someone deliberately stirs controversy to remain in the public eye. The closest idiomatic expression:
If the intention is to be contrary in order to gain attention and fame, the best equivalent is:
Be controversial to get noticed.
Stir up controversy to attract attention.
Or:
He likes to be a contrarian just to get attention.
He deliberately contradicts others simply to attract attention.
Note:
The story of Al-Hutay'ah illustrates the origin of the proverb. He first praised Utaybah, and when Utaybah said to him, "You are the most eloquent of people," Al-Hutay'ah immediately contradicted him, saying, "Disagree to be remembered." That is, merely agreeing does not attract attention, but disagreeing makes people notice you and remember you.
Therefore, the most accurate cultural English equivalent is:
To be a contrarian for attention.
Or: He disagrees just to be noticed.
These convey the spirit of the Arabic proverb better than a literal translation.

Take the share of his father's slave.خذ حظ عبد أباه

خذ حظ عبد أباه
الهاء ترجع إلى الحظ أي أن ترك رزقه وسخطه فخذه أنت
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Take the share of his father's slave. The pronoun "his" refers to the share, meaning that he left his livelihood and was displeased with it, so take it yourself.
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المثل العربي «خُذْ حَظَّ عَبْدٍ أَبَاهُ» يُضرب لمن ترك نصيبه أو زهد فيه أو سخطه، فيُقال لغيره: خذه أنت، فهو قد أضاعه بنفسه.
ولا يوجد مثل إنجليزي مطابق حرفيًا، لكن توجد أمثال وتعابير تؤدي المعنى، منها: “One man's loss is another man's gain.”
أي: خسارة شخص هي مكسب لآخر.
وهو أقرب مقابل للمثل العربي.
“If he doesn't want it, someone else will.”
أي: إذا لم يرده، فسيريده غيره.
“Another man's trash is another man's treasure.”
أي: ما يراه أحد بلا قيمة قد يكون كنزًا لغيره.
وهو قريب إذا كان المقصود التفريط فيما ينفع.
“Use it or lose it.”
أي: استعمله وإلا فقدته.
وهو قريب من فكرة التفريط في النصيب.
وأقرب مقابل للمثل العربي هو:
“One man's loss is another man's gain.”
«خسارةُ شخصٍ هي مكسبٌ لآخر.»
فهو يوافق المعنى المقصود: أن من فرّط في حظه أو تركه، انتفع به غيره.
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The Arabic proverb “Take the share of a slave’s father” is used to describe someone who has neglected, disdained, or become dissatisfied with their share. It is said to someone else: “Take it yourself,” as they have already lost it themselves.
There is no exact English equivalent, but there are proverbs and expressions that convey the same meaning, such as:
“One man’s loss is another man’s gain.”
Meaning: One person’s loss is another man’s gain.
This is the closest equivalent to the Arabic proverb.
“If he doesn’t want it, someone else will.”
Meaning: If he doesn’t want it, someone else will.
“Another man’s trash is another man’s treasure.”
Meaning: What one person considers worthless may be a treasure to another.
This is similar if the intention is to describe the squandering of something beneficial.
“Use it or lose it.”
Meaning: Use it or lose it.
This is similar to the idea of ​​neglecting one’s share.
The closest equivalent to the Arabic proverb is:
“One man’s loss is another man’s gain.”
“One person’s loss is another’s gain.”
This perfectly captures the intended meaning: that whoever squanders or abandons their opportunity benefits another.

Leave a man to his own devices.دَعِ امْرأً وَمَا اخْتَارَ.

دَعِ امْرأً وَمَا اخْتَارَ.
يضرب لن لا يقبل وعْظَكَ، يقال: دَعْه واختياره، كما قيل:
إذا المرءُ لم يدر ما أمكنه ... ولم يأتِ من أمْرِهِ أزْيَنَهْ
وأعْجَبَه العجب فاقْتَادَهُ ... وتَاهَ به التيهُ فاسْتَحْسَنَهْ
فدَعْهُ فقد ساء تَدْبِيرُهُ ... سَيَضْحَكُ يَوْماً ويبكي سَنَةْ
ونكَّر قوله "امْرَأَ" لأنه أراد بالنكرة العمومَ كقوله تعالى {آتِنَا في الدنيا حَسَنةً وفي الآخرة حسنة}
والواو في قوله "وما اختار" بمعنى مع، أي اتْرُكْهُ مع اختياره وكِلْه إليه.
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Leave a man to his own devices.
This proverb is used when someone refuses to heed your advice. It is said, "Leave him to his choice," as in the saying:
If a man does not know what is possible for him... and does not choose the best course of action for himself,
And is captivated by vanity and led astray... and is lost in its own delusions and finds them pleasing,
then leave him be, for his planning is flawed... He will laugh one day and weep for a year. The word "man" is indefinite because the indefinite form implies generality, as in the verse, "Grant us good in this world and good in the Hereafter." The "and" in "what he has chosen" means "with," i.e., leave him to his choice and entrust it to him.
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المثل العربي «دَعِ امرأً وما اختار» يُضرب لمن لا يقبل النصيحة، فيُترك وشأنه وما اختاره لنفسه، حتى يتعلم من عواقب قراره.
ومن أقرب المقابلات الإنجليزية: Let him have his own way.
دعه يفعل ما يشاء.
Leave him to his own devices.
اتركه وشأنه وما اختاره لنفسه. ← وهو الأقرب في المعنى.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
يمكنك أن تقود الحصان إلى الماء، لكن لا يمكنك أن تجبره على الشرب.
ويُضرب لمن يرفض النصيحة أو الإرشاد.
Let him learn the hard way.
دعه يتعلم بالطريقة الصعبة (من نتائج أفعاله).
A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.
من يُقنع على غير إرادته يبقى على رأيه.
أي إن النصيحة لا تنفع من لا يريد قبولها.
وأقرب مثل إنجليزي من حيث الوظيفة المثلية هو:
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
أما إذا أُريد المعنى الحرفي «اتركه مع اختياره»، فأقرب تعبير هو:
Leave him to his own devices.
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The Arabic proverb "Leave a man to his own devices" is used to describe someone who doesn't accept advice. They should be left to their own devices and their own choices, so they can learn from the consequences of their decisions.
Some of the closest English equivalents are:
Let him have his own way.
Leave him to his own devices.
This is the closest in meaning.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
This is used to describe someone who refuses advice or guidance.
Let him learn the hard way.
A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.
In other words, advice is useless to someone who doesn't want to accept it.
The closest English proverb in terms of its literal meaning is:
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
However, if the literal meaning of "leave him to his own devices" is intended, the closest expression is:
Leave him to his own devices.